Who Am I Now?
- Ada Adrianna
- Jun 12, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: Jun 15, 2025
TrueSelf in Flip-Flops: One woman’s barefoot journey to self-love & salty freedom
Have you ever stared into the mirror, toothbrush in hand, and thought:
“Who even am I anymore?”
You're not crazy. You're not broken. You're just waking up.
If you're in your 40s (or gloriously beyond), and you’ve spent years giving, fixing, smoothing things over, and putting everyone else first — there comes a moment.
A quiet little inner voice that says:
“Hey. Remember me?”
That, my love, is your True Self tugging on your sunhat and asking to come out and play.
Why So Many Women Lose Themselves (and It’s Not Your Fault)
Let’s get real for a second.
We were raised to be good girls, good partners, good moms, good workers, good everything. So we did the things. We checked the boxes. We kept the peace.
And somewhere along the way… we disappeared.
Under all the roles and expectations, your voice got softer. Your desires got quieter.
But here’s the good news: She never left.
She’s still there — dancing barefoot, waiting for you to remember her name.
Signs You’ve Lost Touch with Your True Self
If this sounds familiar, you're definitely not alone:
You feel emotionally flat, even when life looks “fine”
You go through the motions, but nothing really moves you
You feel guilty for wanting something more
You honestly don’t even know what brings you joy anymore
Your body feels like a stranger, and intuition? What intuition?
Here’s the truth: This isn’t a crisis. It’s your invitation.
The Path Back to You Begins with Forgiveness
Before you go booking a silent retreat or a new haircut, let’s start where the real work is — forgiveness.
Not just for others, but for yourself.
For all the times you didn’t choose you. For the ways you survived. For not knowing then what you’re learning now.
In my book, Love Yourself Through Forgiveness, I share what I’ve learned (and lived):
You don’t have to go digging for your True Self. You just have to stop burying her.
7 Barefoot Steps to Find Yourself Again
(from my Free Self-Healing Checklist)
Inspired by the gentle, powerful practice of Ho’oponopono, here’s how we begin coming home:
Awareness – What’s heavy on your heart right now?
Forgiveness Mantra – Whisper: “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
Gratitude – Notice one small thing that made you smile (even if it was just good mango)
Letting Go – What story or role are you ready to release?
Self-Compassion – Ask: What would I say to my best friend right now?
Inner Peace – Breathe. For five whole minutes. (You’re allowed.)
Reflection – What did I learn about myself this week?
💌 Click here to download the full Self-Healing Checklist — it’s free, soulful, and made for you.
Wanna Talk? Let’s Kick Off the Flip-Flops and Chat.
You don’t need to figure this out alone.
If your heart’s whispering, “There’s more for me than this,” that’s your True Self knocking — gently but persistently.
Let’s talk it through. One-on-one. Real, soft, and full of soul.
💫 Ready to Reconnect With You? Book a Free Session
You don’t need to figure it out alone. If you feel a quiet nudge in your heart, that’s your true self asking to be seen.
Let’s explore it together in a free 30-minute coaching consultation. I’ll help you begin peeling back the layers and rediscovering the woman you’ve always been.
Contact us to schedule your Free Self-Love Consultation
📌 Final Words: You’ve Been Here All Along
You’re not starting over — you’re starting from truth.
The woman you used to be, the one you long for, the one you sometimes cry about?
She’s not gone. She’s just been patiently waiting.
Waiting for your yes. Waiting for your love. Waiting for you to ask, not with fear, but with wonder: “Who am I, really?”
And to finally hear the answer… barefoot and smiling.
With love (and sandy toes),
Ada Adrianna
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